Does Honesty pays in today's time?

I still remember that my materal grandfather would teach me as a little child that 'Honesty is the best policy', amongst the several lessons he had taught me. And I grew up bearing such principles in mind.

But over the time I realized that not everyone shares the same thinking and works abiding this principle. Moreover, people like me do go through tough time for being so honest and transparent as we are considered 'Not smart-enough' or clever as is required to sustain in today's time. 

I kind of agree that a person should not be too honest to let others take advantage of him but yes there is something called as 'ethics' or 'moral values' which in no ways should disembark from one's conscious. I dont really want to prove my point through any instances. My point is quite simple and straight. Should we leave our moral values that we have grown up with all through our chilhood to achieve what we think is everything at that point of time in our life? 

I mean cummon life mein kya kuch paane k liye hume itna chalaak hona zaruri hai ki we have to kill our conscious and just grab the opportunity and make the most out of that? Do we lack in conviction in our own abilities and sincerity. Agreed, till some extent one should know how to handle situations tactfully,but is it necessary to keep someone in dark, just to satisfy our motives.

The lessons I have learnt so far are that yes we have to play smart and kill our moral values. Because there are very few people who value and respect honesty in others. But, given the fact that I have been brought up with strong moral values, it will take time to get dissolved in this fictitous world full of opportunists.

Wish I could be myself.................And still be happy

A New Exposure

Being a wife of a Naval Officer not only brings in lots of comforts, but also quite a bit of  responsibilities too. One is expected to be formally dressed up at various occassions, be on time at the party's or functions, keep in track of each other (other ladies of the same unit) from time to time and even organize events (depending on lot of factors, difficult to explain, as it is I hate typing so much)

Such a methodological life style instills a lot in one's self because of a quality exposure. Speaking for myself I feel far more confident and independent than ever before. Most importantly I feel now I am more caring towards others than what I used to be.

 Let me share today's event. All the ladies of my husband's unit were to assemble at 4:00 PM for an informal meet with the sailor's wives. This was the first of its kind that I was to attend, so I was quite excited about it. I learnt through other senior ladies that such events are organized when the husband's are away on a duty (for many days) and we  as officer's wives must take care of sailor's wives, who unlike us don't enjoy many perks.

We reached dot on time and sailor's wives were already seated waiting for us all. I entered the hall with a big smile (very typical of me) on my face so as to give dem all a friendly attitude. And in no minutes I was talking quite frankly with most of them, asking their names, their native place etc. 

Then I begun asking them different questions as to how they spend their time, what keeps them occupied when their husband's are away. Few answered confidently, few were shy to talk about just anything. So we decided to play a game to break the ice.

Accomplishing my long lasting demand of playing dum-sha-dars ...one of the senior ladies suggested the same and in no time we got divided into two teams. Now our role was to encourage the sailor's wives to come out with the name of movies and act them out. Just a way to take their shyness away. I was as usual thrilled to play one of my fav indoor game...And like a teacher (rather a Headmistress)I made my group understand the game and get started with a list of difficult movies. 

And to the hts of my excitement, our group won the game, although we all got to eat the same stuff (samosas, cream biscuits, wafers, kalakand. tea) but I could see a beam of victory in my team's eyes.

At the end of the day, I could clearly see smiles on everyone's face. I am so glad that I got to attend this small sweet event that gave me chance to understand, share, laugh with other ladies who perhaps lead more difficult and less priveleged life than me. 

I am so happy.. What a start for this New year......